My emotions are all over the place lately. I want to succeed. I want to nap. I want to not hurt. I want to be stronger, but I don't want to workout.
I keep throwing in back to where I want to be in a year. A full week of my 52nd year has already flown by. Over all it was a good week, but it could have been better. It could have been a lot worse too. I need to adjust my attitude and become a more positive person. Like the annoying optimist I used to be when I was a kid.
The coach I'm working with asked some hard questions of us this week. I need to sit and answer them.
So if you’re having trouble truly believing that reality is possible for yourself, how do you change it?
It starts with breaking all your old, false beliefs.
In order to make way for the new, you need to get rid of the old.
So what old beliefs are still hanging around for you? I'm too handicapped for this to work.
Do you believe you need to be perfect 100% of the time to see progress and beat yourself up every time you’re not? yes!
Do you believe you’re a failure and it’s inevitable that everything is
going to crash eventually and you’ll gain all the weight back? Of course I am a failure, I haven't lost much weight yet to gain it back!
Do you believe that you don’t deserve to be happy and live the life you want? I deserve this!
Do you believe it’s going to be far too difficult to make the change in
your life you know you need to make and that you’re just not strong
enough? I am strong enough, I just need to learn to be patient.
If these are the beliefs you have, you’re not likely going to be able to
create new beliefs about the life and the identity you want to have.
You need to get rid of these beliefs first.
How do you do that?
Look at them from an outside perspective. Put yourself in someone else’s
shoes and evaluate those beliefs that you have about yourself.
Are they actually true? No, not all of them. Any of them? I'm not a failure. I know there is no such thing as perfect. All or nothing thinking is the thief of so many joys.
Are there any actual reasons for you to have these beliefs? Because I'm not seeing the progress as fast as I think I should.
Is there any factual evidence to support those ideas you have about yourself and your abilities? no
Or is there a chance that they are wrong? They could be wrong ....
What evidence or proof do you have that supports an idea different than these beliefs you have about yourself? I'm working out more consistently than I have in forever and I'm doing hard workouts.
What have you done lately that has shown that they aren’t true? I've been working out and eating healthier. I didn't even eat birthday cake ON MY BIRTHDAY because I wasn't hungry and didn't want it. This is amazing progress!
My brain is my worst enemy and needs to be turned into my greatest strength. I'm working on this. And patience. I'm always working on patience. <sigh>
